“Hey!! What’s new??”
“I’ve just been so busy…”
It’s how so many of us answer that question. As if we are less than if we aren’t sprinting through our days. If we don’t have a series of goals and achievements to answer that question with – we aren’t enough.
I think once we abolish the notion that we need to consistently be grinding and working to be successful or get ahead in life – we allow a soft happiness to creep in. Life Hack: Happiness = Success.
Our bodies need to stay active to remain healthy and functional. They also need rest and recovery. The same goes for our minds and souls. So many of the questions I have in life are answered when I’m in silence. When I’m reflecting on the things I would like to accomplish. That’s when I come up with new ideas, new ways to be more efficient, and that’s when I find solutions to the questions my mind simply can’t answer when it is running on overdrive.
I recently had a few job opportunities that came up. I had no idea what to do. My wallet, schedule, mind, heart were all telling me something different. I was overthinking about it. How do I make this work? Is this for me? Will I feel trapped? How will this affect my other goals? Can I do it all? AHHHH!
Well – I decided to put it on the back burner for a month and I would make a decision in the New Year. As soon as I stopped dwelling on it, I started to recover from the stress I had been putting myself under by trying to figure out every detail. The thing is – I didn’t stop thinking about it all together. That would have been unrealistic. But when I stopped letting it consume my thoughts I was able to figure out what my natural boundaries were. I could start feeling where I wanted to put my energy because it was where I was naturally drawn. I started becoming more truthful about the balance I needed to create for myself.
There is always a time to push hard but taking time to reflect while you are making that push is healthier than spinning your wheels until you crash. Hectic schedules and people will always reflect in how you show up in life. We can’t always avoid it – but we can manage it by taking time outs.
I still answer the question “What’s new?” the same way as I always have. My schedule is full so I suppose it’s no lie. I’ve just changed my perspective on busy. I’m busy reflecting, I’m busy building relationships with the people I love, I’m busy cultivating goals I’m passionate about, I’m busy looking after myself.
Be busy finding balance in a world that is constantly telling us that our degrees, job titles, relationship status or our social media feeds are the things that make us productive or whole.
“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.”